okay, perfect.

Every. Basic. Girl.

In her twenties…has made it known at some point or another that they are in their “villain era” and I hate to say it, but I think I’ve entered mine…

Some of you would agree, though, that I may or may not resonate with said “basic b*tches”

And you wouldn’t be wrong ❤

But I’ve wondered a lot what this looks like, so like every other BB, after I go to the gym, I lay out by the pool to tan and watch vloggers tell me about a GRWM or a day-in-the-life and I decided to look into this phenomenon.

I think that every generation has this sad era, and hear me out: its necessary.

Essentially, its the point in a young persons’ life when they break free from the learned behaviors an every standard they’re held to by an outside party and they start directing their lives however they want.

Right or wrong.

Healthy or toxic.

Positive or negative.

It’s a part of life and failure is necessary here, because now you’re developing your own sense of self. Everyone, for the most part, has gone through these and if you don’t? Well, you’ve been entertaining the wrong person and it’s not the person in the mirror.

Rightfully so, parents raise their children with a set of morals that they believe in:

Christians raise their child to church,

Farmers teach their children how to run a business,

Etc, etc

But what happens when a person reaches a breaking point in their life where they decided to change these taught lifestyles and try something new?

AHA. VILLAIN ERA.

It’s really not as bad as you might think, not really that negative either. It’s just a switch. When does this happen? Well, for BB, it’s usually after a breakup with the toxic frat boy they’ve spent all their time and energy on. For others, this might look like the end of a long-term friendship or maybe a realization that their situation wasn’t how they wanted it to look like/feel. Work might suck, finances, children. Everything plays a role, and its generally when the person is tired of whatever cycle they’re in and wants to change it.

And most people will hate this.

Hence, the villain era.

Because now you’re limiting access into your life from others and from situations, you may not include yourself in activities you used to do, and you may pull away from relationships. And people don’t like change. Not in this day and age, it’s all about control.

So they call you cocky, rude, full of yourself, disgusting, hypocritical, humorous, etc. And you just gotta let them, because 1) this is your journey, not theirs and 2) their opinion is irrelevant unless its paying your bills.

You are learning how to set boundaries, how to be alone, how to enjoy it, and what you like in life… you are establishing a whole new personality based on YOUR preferences (not your parents, not your mentors or your ex) and the failures that come along the way!!

Granted, I don’t think your parents always want what’s best for you in their eyes, so don’t throw any stones yet, they gave you the basis to figure out life on your own. If they didn’t, then they didn’t care enough, so be grateful for the guidance.

I know i’ve been MIA, and it’s a little inconsistent. But life is a working progress and i’m just trying to get some parts figured out so blogs will probably be bi-weekly, and I plan to start vlogging the beginning of the year! 🙂 So you get to see what chaos is in a person.