okay, perfect.

They say your only competition is yourself, and mine has rotated between discipline, iced coffee and a sleeping schedule.

And okay, perfect has been on sticky notes in my room, my journals waiting to leave those pages and scribbled along my Pinterest page screaming to come back…so after a much needed reality check along with my frontal lobe making its appearance (finally), welcome to okay, perfect.

And now ✨ after 2 years of living in a male dominated industry and trying to embrace a soft, strong feminine personality and ego, these experiences and lessons I’ve learned from women I’ve met over the last few years are moving from paper to here. I’ve been extremely blessed to have spent this time with a company that teaches me patience and resilience, but more-so the clients I work with that I learn something new from every time we speak.

Being a woman in her twenties with a job role that is filled with 30-40 year olds can be stressful, because you’re constantly having to either prove yourself or keep up with the duties that really take away from the joy of a social life that you should be living.. but, that’s why I’ve decided to really engage and push into social media to reach out to my girlies (and for the boys that support me too 🫶🏼) to remind them of several things:

1. What your job role is, doesn’t determine who you are as a person. Keep that personality trait that makes you stand out and CHANGE FOR NOBODY.
2. You have an upper hand- and everybody knows it. Your youth and lack of experience only makes you more desirable.
3. The move you make today makes tomorrow successful.
4. Everything new is terrifying, embrace tf out of it and put on your big girl pants.
5. You won’t be making the same money right off the bat- but you can if you work the system.
6. You WILL have bad days and you WILL come across some really sh*tty people, but those experiences only make the good days even better and train you how to handle those situations.
7. You will experience loneliness during this growth and it’s all part of it. Don’t look at it negatively, look at it with gratefulness. This is weeding out the materialistic friends, the ones who will contribute nothing to the world, and build your social circle with those who will help you reach your goals or at least recognize them.
8. It’s going to take time, it’s going to take messing up once or twice to really learn the flow of things- job and/or relationship.
9. If you’re single- great.
10. If you’re married- great.

And I’m not a modern-feminist so don’t get upset yet, but the things that the world is trying to implement on women now are not the things that we should be doing- regardless of ego.

• Track your cycle- what you eat, do, sleep all are affected and will affect your production levels as well as overall mental state.

• Avoid alcohol- social settings, celebrations, etc are okay. However, when you’re drinking 5-6x a week or emotionally drinking…babe… alcohol is literally poison and you have a 3-day hangover minimum. Not just physical, but it lingers emotionally and mentally.

• Drink your water- clear skin, mental awareness, and your livelihood depend on this.

• Make time for yourself- this is priority #1!

• Your friends are everything, so choose wisely.

Now, it’s your decision how to live your life. Some girls love the grind, want to be the CEO and be single. Good for you! Some girls want to be a mom, have a huge family and stay away from the corporate lifestyle- also good for you! There’s no timeline for ANY of this to happen, and regardless of what some people might say, that’s their own opinion.

And I love a good opinion. 😈 The science behind opinions are that it is a learned trait or experience that creates it- a knowledgeable and credible one. Those people who just fling out words are what we call idiots who can’t think for themselves and want to follow the crowd.

(There’s a football term I can’t think of right now, but it applies.)

((I’m literally just a girl.))

Once you sit down and truly think about what you want, the rest literally becomes so easy.

|It might take a month, a year or 10, but it’s all in the works.|

You create the life you want whether you’re aware of it or not. And these last 2 years working 6-7 days a week (at one time 22 days straight), 9-12 hour days, and having to really sit down and sort my priorities, I can finally focus on what I want.

And what I want is to be able to reach out to the girlies like me 5 years ago, feel pressured and rushed to get everything done ASAP and have it all figured out, otherwise I was a waste of space.

You need to have a plan, yes, but your calling is screaming at you- whatever you keep returning to in your brain, focus on that. You like to capture beautiful moments with your camera? Make it happen. You enjoy organization and numbers, but like to work behind the scenes? Find the career path that does that and head to it.

The world is literally at your fingertips and you keep putting it off because you don’t prioritize what makes everything make sense- your health.

A sound mind, strong body and healthy lifestyle and you’ve got what 99% of the population doesn’t have and that’s happiness. Pure, happiness.

So here’s to a reset, and a long long life of okay, perfect.

Cheers 🥂