okay, perfect.

Scary, I know, I went on a lovely hiatus where I focused on my career, along with other things BUT I am bringing her back and I just want to say thank you to all my readers who are still checking in and reading and sharing!

When I started this blog, it was moreso a hobby, voicing out a lot of things I’ve learned and studied about the brain, psychology, the effects of COVID on depression-ADHD and how it seemed there was only prescription treatment versus actual help. Pharmaceutical companies have always made their dollar on these areas of health, and I aim to bring light to that through extensive self-work within the person instead of relying on a pill.

It seems convenient, and it does help for the busybodies as well as the corporate lifestyles, but again, that’s something that has been taught to us over the last several years:

To grind until we make it to be the first millionaire in our family, to stay focused and hard at work and to make our money and to not trust anyone in the process.

And it’s valid, 100%, it’s something that I want to work toward as well. The issue with that is the longevity of the idea and its effects long term:

Let’s say you make it, in 3 years, you have a thriving business or two, you’ve made it past the million mark and living where you want, driving what you want, your debt is paid off and life is great! (WHICH I HOPE IT IS)

But now what? You still have those same habits you came into the mindset with. The only thing you grew was your mental belief to overcome and achieve financial mountains, as well as your finances. You didn’t even take a look at the root of what put you there.

Breakups, a family event or layoff are some of the reasons why people kick it into gear and go headfirst into work-mode, but what a lot of folks don’t do is the internal work and practice to see why some of these things happen.

Breakups

• Who broke up with who?
• Why?
• Is it something that you did and could control? (I.e. drinking too much, insecurity, cheating, childhood trauma you refuse to face, lack of boundaries, priorities were elsewhere, or simply boredom)
• Is it something that you can learn from and change some habits or routines around and become better for you, therefore revealing if there is an actual attraction to the person or if its simply a need to feel validated?

Probably majority of what I see on social media regarding this leads the individual to enter their “dark era” or a quiet space where they either reflect and grow, OR its completely toxic to themselves and they develop a negative mindset that MIGHHHHHTTTT consist of:

1. I do not trust ANYONE.
2. Fuck relationships.
3. I’m going to die alone and single.
4. No one really cares about me.

And I’m sure there are others but you get the point…

Family Event

• Was trust misplaced?
• Did somebody pass away unexpectedly?
• Did it involve a parent or a sibling?
• Did somebody get married and it wasn’t the right match?

You’d truly be surprised, and holidays are the worst time for this, but it happens. Whether someone lied to you, or said they’d be there and they weren’t, this can also lead to a breakthrough that the individual is just not happy with where they are at and its time to shift for the hope of creating a better environment for THEIR future children or themself.

It’s beautiful, when I see a broken soul make the changes to ensure their children and future generations will break out of whatever toxic cycle they’re in.

And yes, you can be mad with parents, but being mad only affects the true emotional trauma that’s been built up, giving you the foundation to release that anger, recognize what triggers it, actively recognizing how the cycle begins!

whether its alcohol abuse in response to stress, drug abuse to chase a high and avoid responsibilities or certain situations that are harmful to them as well, I mean there are so many beginnings to a toxic cycle that’ll alter your life completely.

The American Job.

You tried so hard and lost your job because you didn’t reach the standards of the employee, or just a change in owners, or you just hated your job and quit.

Sometimes this is necessary BECAUSE its going to make 1 of 2 things out of you:

1. A fucking determined, hard working, educated business owner (or whatever job title you want) who is tired of being pushed around or paying taxes, or
2. A really depressed, nonfunctional human being who is going to see no self-worth and you’ll victimize your entire life out of that..

Truly, honestly, it happens to usually fall in one of those two categories. You either become so determined to find your true calling after that, or you just become so depressed that you weren’t good enough to want.

Each of these (and there are plenty more but I pulled statistics into this so that I could keep my mind from going down a rabbit hole) are mental shifts that we react to to make the world make sense to us.

Either you put your head down and grind it out or you fall to your failures.

With that being said, whatever it is that drives you into the success you now have, can also ruin you if you refuse to reflect on the…

💡Why.

• Why do you want to go to the gym?
  • To stay fit, take out a built up rage, to “prove” you’re good enough (and to who), or to develop a lack of existing discipline.
• Why do you want to become a millionaire?
  • To free yourself financially, to enjoy the pleasures of life, for material wants.
• Why do you feel the need to seclude yourself for 3-6 months?
  • To figure out what you want in life, to avoid people for fear of trust of abandonment, to take time to resolve trauma and understand it.

Whatever it is, whatever your “Why” is, you need to determine it. And it CAN VERY WELL CHANGE OVER TIME.

“I’m going to the gym to build a body s/he can’t touch.” Can transform into “I’m seeing a difference in my abilities to think and move and I love this plus I look hot.” OR whatever it is, embrace it.

It’s change: your mindset, it’s adapting to a whole new lifestyle that’s going to change the way you think/eat/speak/act/function. It’s beautiful and disastrous in the best way. And it’s terrifying at the same time, but that’s growth. That’s the future you’re creating for yourself, and that’s how you’re going to truly will see the difference you’re striving towards every day.

Get up early, write your goals for the day, read something, keep your body moving, cut out the energy drinks, the sugar, the iced coffee, the alcohol and cigs, and be in the moment instead of rushing to the next thing.

Romanticize the tea you drink, sit in solitude and enjoy the peace of it, find a new hobby and throw yourself head over heels into it and create the version of you that is in your daydreams while you sit at that desk you hate making minimum wage.

Or don’t.

The beauty is that you control what comes next, and you probably have a lot more people rooting for you than you believe.

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Cheers to the next, successful version of yourself and I can’t wait to see what you build.