okay, perfect.

Some days are iced-coffee, hair-cooperating, makeup is on absolute point accomplishments of days.

Other days we feel the need to launch ourselves either off a bridge or to just stay in bed with the doors locked and phone thrown out the window.

It’s the highest of highs, and it’s weird because we can feel the low days the night before and we automatically know to warn our loved ones of this catastrophe that is about to happen.

My father, bless him✨, is an absolute G when it comes to the worst days- he was a mom/dad growing up so he knows me in and out. When my moods shift, he takes to required steps, wearing the proper safety prevention equipment to either help or shield himself..

I’m not saying my time of the month, but I’m also not someone who is bipolar (I’ve never been prescribed so I can’t speak on the behalf of those who are). I’m just someone who works a lot, and has terrible coping skills to release the tension or frustration. 🥲

Being in my twenties has taught me that your routines will almost always get interrupted by SOMETHING. A boy, a night out, work, finances, pets, school- whatever it is, this is the timeline where we try to learn how to properly manage these moments of “distress” (LMAO AT THE WORD CHOICE BECAUSE IT DOESN’T FEEL LIKE THAT) and what to do when that happens.

Also, being in my twenties has taught me that your friend group is everything. Especially in these moments of distress.

Who is there to support you during your inconvenient pop up?

And when your normally scheduled wake up at 7am, go for a walk, make a coffee, journal/stretch/workout morning routine turns into a panic attack or funk for 3 days straight, you need someone to be able to lean on or someone to check in.

We’re social beings, always have been, and even though some form of solitude is good and teaches you a lot of yourself, you need to have your “group.” Group of friends, mentors, family, who ever. But you need your people.

“Oh, I have my friends, I’m not worried about that.”

Okay, will these friends have your back during a breakup? Bring you flowers to work because the guy you were talking to had a girlfriend the entire time? Keep you in check at the gym? Challenge you to be more and be better because you CAN?

Your group is what is going to carry you through these highs and lows, and your group is going to know what to do vice versa- plus you’ll do the same for them (I hope).

But these lows can get to you and yes, a few days of distance is fine (you don’t HAVE to talk to someone 24/7 if thats not your thing, its not mine) but when you stop taking care of yourself, that’s when you have to start taking action against it.

Get up. Make a breakfast or something. Pick up your clothes.

Do little things and reward yourself, because just moving some clothes from the floor to their designated spot (the chair) will trigger receptors in your brain that help release forms of serotonin.

Plus it makes you feel better. (:

Behold, an unwanted list of what I did in the middle of a week-long funk:

1. Schedule a tea/lunch date with a good friend (lunch so I can wake up slowly and feel everything instead of just forcing myself into the day. And my hair takes forever.)
2. Force myself to SOME form of physical activity.Some days I would just sit outside and just do weird random stretches then go for a walk; other days I would go to the gym and box because I was just angry for some reason (work probably).
3. Hydrate hydrate hydrate.I mean water. Alcohol makes you sadder and the hangover lasts 3 days minimum (mentally). Also, your body could be dehydrated anyways which is why you’re sluggish.
4. Don’t overextend myself.Your to-do list is not meant to stress you out… it’s meant to just get you back into a sense of normality. You shouldn’t be going going going all day, keep it light but active and social in some form.
5. You might need a hug.No seriously, lack of physical touch can attribute to many mental health problems long-term. Go see your parents or your friends. DO NOT call Him though. Stop that. Go see your grandma.

Your time is valuable. And in these moments where you just feel blocked out, heavy, held-back you have to remind yourself of that.

It’s okay to reset and recharge, but you only have so many years left until the big unknown. Don’t let these moments of heavy thoughts hold you down long because you have so so much to do, people to see, places to go and these lows could very well turn into a heavy depression.

Remember how far you’ve come and get up. It’s NOT easy, it’s not fun and it’s not what you’re going to want to do. Stay down as long as you need to girlie, I was down for almost 4 months this year, but make sure you get back up again.

Breakups suck, work sucks, but you have so much ahead of you and I’m excited.

xx